Wednesday, January 2, 2013

WITNESS-Part I

Dear Endow Sisters,

I have begun a short story that I wanted to share with all of you. It is my story, told though the  perspective of a child.  It is a story about good people, living their faith and how it profoundly changed my life.  I will be posting it in installments.  Let me know what you think.




WITNESS
By: Prayer Warrior


Blue…blue was the color of the sky.  The wide open expanse of the searing blue sky was often framed by the cool, deep green of ‘Las Palmas Real’-the palm trees indigenous to Cuba.  Island breezes swept through the houses’ open windows and most residents of our small town were smart enough to stay out of the noon day sun.  And yet in this idyllic setting there was an undercurrent of unease; a malaise that could be felt by the very old and the very young.  Those in the middle years of life were just as affected by the sickly current of uneasiness, but often were too busy just trying to attend to their many responsibilities which included taking care of the very old and young to dwell on the feeling. 

In my home, the very air carried a current of anxiety.  Papi had stormed off in a whirlwind of anger…and fear.  Mami was still as a statue, eyes full of tears, her lips murmuring a constant prayer.  Yeye, my older sister sat quietly, her eyes restlessly moving from our mother’s face to the front door that still seemed to vibrate by the vicious, angry slam from our father’s hurried exit.  I knew enough to keep still.  I tended to talk…all the time.  My happy chatter was constant and I often followed my family around the house, chattering away.  My brother Mel and Yeye were the most impatient with me.  But Tata and Emi were my special loves. 

Tata was my everything.  She fed me, bathed me, played with me, took me everywhere with her and let me know that I was her everything too.  After Tata came Emi in my affection.  Kind eyes that matched his beautiful heart were often turned towards me.  He too made time to speak with me and when none of his friends were looking, he played with me.  Yeye barely tolerated me.  I had taken her place as the baby of the family and she wasn’t to forgive me this trespass any time soon.  Mel had a head full of lofty thoughts and he didn’t have much time for a bothersome baby sister. 

But now Tata, Emi and Mel had been gone a long time.  I knew that all the fear and anxiety that was palpable in the air had to do with them.  The silence in our house, like their absence was like a dark menacing presence, that looms just outside of one's vision.  The feeling was one of danger; of impending doom.  I couldn’t have articulated the feelings then, but I could feel them all the same.

I curled up on the sofa to wait.  All was in stillness.  All was in quiet anticipation.  I must have fallen asleep, because the next thing I knew, they were all there in the room with me, everyone speaking at once.  My brothers and sister looked harried, disheveled, dirty and hollow-eyed with fear.  Tata spoke angrily, echoed by the boys.  My father bellowed and howled until I thought the room was shaking from all the expressed emotions swirling in the room.  My mother was quietly assessing my siblings.  She cleaned scrapes, and exclaimed over bruises.  She took each child in turn and hugged them tight to her as if trying to absorb all the ugliness.  I saw my parents exchange a look so filled with meaning that even I, now hugging legs all around and chattering away was momentarily silenced by it.

Saturday, September 22, 2012

MissYou Mami...

Dear Sisters,

As I was preparing for our get together today on C.S. Lewis' The Four Loves, I reread chapter 4 on Friendship.   What a master Lewis is in describing the love of friendship and in particular, how each of us brings out an aspect of one another that is unique.  If any of us were to leave the group or move away, as when our friend leaves for Maine each year, we don't have more of one another, but instead are somewhat diminished, because only she can bring out that unique part of us that reacts to her words and her presence.

This got me thinking about the loss of my mother.  As we grow, we go from being the 'child' with all our needs and wants.  The 'child' needs to be fed, clothed, comforted, and taught.  This stage I supposed can last forever if the person remains child-like and the parent continues to assert her role as 'parent'.  I have seen relationships like this well into adulthood.  How sad when that parent dies, as the 'child' no matter the age will then look to another to fulfill that need-based roll.

If one is able to leave the 'child' phase behind, then many of us experience the 'rebel' phase of development.  "I will determine what is best for me", we seem to say with every gesture, tone of voice and action.  We concentrate on the self, immerse ourselves in the world and our 'friends' and refuse the 'child' label with all that we are.

Maturity, time and life's blows often bring on an introspection of self and an reevaluation of our family and the beliefs that were a part of those years of dependency as a child.  It is then, that the branch of friendship is forged with our parents.  Perhaps those individuals weren't quite as 'thick' as we once thought.  Maybe, just maybe they know a great deal more about life and living than we have given them credit for.  As our experiences in marriage, child-bearing, and life bump along, so does a deep friendship, especially with the parent that shares our gender.  Here is a kindred spirit that can understand the stages of life that we ourselves are experiencing.

My mother used to tell a story to us about an old conductor on a train in Cuba.  The conductor saw this beautiful young mother with four children get on a train bound for Havana.  He nodded sagely and said  "Where you are, I have been... and where I am, you are going."  What a wise and wistful comment to a women in the peak of her life.  My mother always reflected on the old conductor's words and she often said the same thing to us as we were growing and having our own children.

Which brings me back to Lewis and his insightful chapter on friendship.  He didn't specifically speak to the friendship that develops between aging parents and adult children, but I see so many applications of his wise words.

In particular, the insight that comes regarding what a person brings forth from each of us, that no one else can, is so true.  Now that my wonderful mother is gone, I keenly miss the friendship that I had developed with her as I matured.  I also greatly miss the parts of my sisters and brothers that only my mother's presence could bring forth.  We are so lucky to have had this amazing person as our mother, but her absence is not just a loss in each of our lives individually, but a loss to us collectively.   We have done our best to soldier on as a family, but an element essential, vital, maternal, and unique to each of us as individuals and as a group is now missing.

I am grateful for the presence of friends in my life that see 'the truth' as I see it.  It is as if God, knowing what he would soon be taking from my life that was precious and unique, wanted in His in estimable goodness to replace it with special friendships to help see me through this loss.

Dear God,

Thank you so much for my amazing mother, bless her soul and have mercy on her,
Thank you for giving me your mother as solace for my loss, Mary my mother, pray for us!
Thank you for the wonderful, unique and loving women you have put in my life,
Thank you for what You bring to every aspect of my life.  For my life itself.
All that I am, all that I will be has been called out by You.

AMEN!

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Signs of Life

Scott Hahn wrote many edifying books. Right now I'm reading Signs of Life: 40 Catholic customs and their biblical roots.
Our Church is like a mansion filled with riches beyond imagination; I am like a blind beggar stumbling around the entrance vestibule, longing for light, warmth and food. We've inherited from our Jewish brothers rich customs, rites and teachings. Jesus and His faithful followers heap upon us these gifts, and yet, most of us are wrapped up in our own rags of ignorance. As I read Hahn's explanation of our Catholic customs I keep asking myself  'why didn't I know this before?' I thought I knew all there is to know about the Sign of the Cross, yet, he added much to my understanding. He quotes St. Francis de Sales: " ...the Sign of the Cross is a brief declaration of our faith in the three great mysteries: of our faith in the Blessed Trinity, in the passion of Christ, and in the forgiveness of sin, by which we pass from the left side of curse to the right of blessing." Can anything bring more comfort than humbly asking God, with every Sign of the Cross we make, to remove us from the curses and place us in His blessings?

Friday, August 24, 2012

All You Need is Love....

Dear Sisters,

I have a confession to make.  Your sister in Christ is a bit of a coward!  It is true my friends, I get tongue tied and stay silent sometimes when I know I should speak.  I neglect to engage someone, when they say something outrageous about the church, faith, priests or Christians.  I worry about how I will be perceived.  Then, I become ashamed of myself for not having the courage to speak.

For a long time now, I have been praying for courage.  It seems that in this day and age that we are living, Christians need to gird their loins and start wading in to encounter the culture.  But just one small problem; it takes courage.  Only 1 Holy Spirit has mentioned that we are living at a time where Christians and in particular Catholic Christians will no longer have the luxury of sitting on the fence.  Each of us is being asked to make a choice;  Are you for God, or are you against Him.  Jesus says,"for whoever is not against us is for us." Mark 9:40

An interesting thing has happened as I've read The Four Loves as well as various volumes written about or by saints.  I have come to understand that what I lack is not courage, but love.  Love is the grace that I need to pray for, because from Love of God will come the courage I have so desperately wished for.

Why can a petite woman lift a car that her child is under...Love.
Why can a terminally ill man hang on beyond all hope and understanding until his grown son comes to his bedside...Love.
Why could the saints face the lions, beheadings, fire, flayling, etc., ...Love
How could our Lady stand at the foot of the cross as her son lay dying...LOVE!

Love is the ingredient that has been missing in this formula.  So instead of courage, I am asking for the courage to Love God as He deserves.  This can only be done if He gives me the grace to love in this way.  When I finally love as LOVE demands, I will no longer stay silent, but in a loving manner propose my point of view, my christian, my CATHOLIC point of view.  Then I will proceed to back up the views I express not just with what I 'feel' is right, but with the facts that support that world view. 

What we believe is based on truth.  AND this truth is the greatest love story of all...that God loved us first, so that we may return that love.

Holy Spirit,
I humbly beg for the grace to LOVE without worrying about the cost,
To trust that your LOVE will never take me, where your grace will not sustain me.
Own my heart lord,
Teach me to love.

Ever your little broken pencil...


Monday, August 6, 2012

WHERE ARE YOU, JESUS?

Dear Sisters,

I was saying the Rosary on Saturday, and visiting with the Holy Family as I pondered the Joyful Mysteries.  When I got to Finding Jesus in the Temple, the wheels on my imagination started to whirl. 

Imagine ladies the dusty road that the extended family was taking out of Jerusalem.  There are various animals,  some pack animals, some providing milk or food.  There are servants, and Joseph and Mary's families.  Some men are calling to each other, noting an animal that is straying or a rocky area to be avoided.  The women walk together, chattering happily about their time in Jerusalem and the blessings the Lord had provided.

The group is far advanced out of the city when they stop to rest and the women prepare a meal.  Mary glances around idly, looking for her sweet son.  She notes that he isn't in the vicinity, but she's not worried.  He's probably with Joseph.  The boy loves his father and spends a lot of time at his side.  She finds Joseph and offers him the meal that she and the other ladies have prepared.  He smiles warmly at his wife and thanks her for the food.  Then Mary asks, "Where is Jesus?"  Joseph puts down the trencher he was holding and looks at his wife, "I thought he was with you."  He too had noticed the boy's absence, but assumed that he was spending time with his mother and the other children his age.

Joseph's heart starts to pound as he gets up to start actively searching among their brethren for Jesus.  With every passing minute the ball of dread in his stomach is widening, causing a sickening feeling of fear that he can taste in his mouth.  Joseph looks up to heaven, "Lord help me find your son.  I love him so much.  Please keep him safe."

After searching the camp, Mary turns a worried face to Joseph, "What should we do?"  I realized then, that Our Lady must have turned to Joseph always for her needs, for her protection, for her comfort.  His were the strong shoulders she relied upon as she they raised God's son.  We too can go to Joseph when we have that ball of fear in our bellies.  We too can rely on his strong shoulders, his protection when we fear for those we love.  He is a marvelous advocate for those of us that have children who are lost...to the faith.

Joseph must have immediately taken control of the situation.  He sent family members to backtrack and look for the boy.  He made the decision to head back to Jerusalem and look for their son.  He brought Mary along because they were a unit.  Together they raised God's son.  Together they faced hardships in Egypt and peril from Herod.  They were united in their faith and their purpose and there was no question that they would find Jesus together.

Those of us that have the vocation of marriage have another lesson to learn here.  We have a helper at our side that can help us find Our Lord.  We too can turn back to the Temple and find Jesus.  We too can lean upon each other as we journey back to the Father.

The mysteries are so rich in meaning.  I have only scratched their surface.  Like an onion there are many layers of meaning and it is only that I am too sinful yet and too immersed in my own everyday nonsense to reach the inner layers.

Dear Lord,
Help me too detach myself more each day from the mundane and the worldly,
that I may enter to an ever deeper understanding of your great glory and love.

Ever your little broken pencil...

Monday, July 16, 2012

God's Gracious Glory

My friends,
Spending time in Alaska is soul enriching.  What an amazing place.  As I beheld the glory of God's creation, this song ran through my head.

Canticle Of The Sun
Refrain:
The heavens are telling the glory of god, and all creation is shouting for
joy, come, dance in the forest, come play in the field and sing, sing to the glory of the Lord


Sing to the sun, the bringer of day, he carries the light of the Lord in his rays, the moon and the stars, who light up the way unto your throne.
Refrain
Praise to the wind, that blows through the trees, the seas mighty storms, the gentlest breeze, they blow where they will, they blow where they please, to please the Lord.
Refrain
Praise to the rain that waters our fields, and blesses our crops, so all the earth yields, from death unto life her myst'ry concealed, springs forth in joy.
Refrain
Praise to the fire, who gives us his light, the warmth of the sun to brighten our night, he dances with joy, his spirit so bright, he sings of You.
Refrain
Sing to the earth, who makes life to grow, the creatures You made to let Your life show, the flowers and trees that help us to know the Heart of Love.
Refrain
Praise to our death, that makes our life real, the knowledge of loss that helps us to feel, the Gift of Yourself, Your Presence revealed to bring us home.
Refrain


Man has done many lovely things on this earth, but nothing is as grand as the things that God has done in making our planet and all the beauty in it.  'It is  GOOD!"

Looking forward to see you all soon!
 
 

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Mary's Womb-Our Church

Dear Sisters,

Today as I crossed the courtyard at St.Mary's in Chandler, I was filled the most profound sense of entering into the sacred womb of our dear Mother, Mary.  This church in particular, is of course appropriately named after the Mother of God.  I reflected as I pulled on the lovely stain-glass inset doors that I could feel the sacred presence of our Lord.  The Adoration Chapel to the side of the church, the lit red candle at the front of the church remind me that Jesus is still with us, in the most primordial way possible.  He dwells within the church as He did within his mother's womb.

How humbling to enter that sacred place and face Our Lord with all my faults, sins and contradictions.  I reflected that Our Lord was nurtured in the womb by Our Lady's body and blood.  Just as the church since the very beginning has nurtured us with Jesus' body and blood.

The womb, any woman's womb should be a sacred, nurturing place and today this truth pierced my heart with such clarity.  I think that is way we are so horrified when assailants enter a church and kill the faithful during a mass.  And why the holocaust of abortion is something that a true believer can never comprehend or accept.  We should be safe in the womb of our church, as a child should be safe in the womb of his mother.

Let us pray diligently sisters for the end to legalized abortion in the United States as we pray that the government will allow us to maintain the sanctity and safety of our Churches-Our Lady's Womb.

Peace sisters!